Lately, you’ve felt like your man has been distant. More withdrawn, holding back. Like he has a weight on his shoulders, but one he won’t tell you about. He hasn’t said anything to you about it (maybe he’s even denied it!), but you know it’s there.
Your mind is starting to run wild wondering what could be wrong, and even if your relationship is doomed.
Rest assured; there’s no need to be thinking in such extremes yet.
A guy pulling away can mean any number of things – and not necessarily that your relationship is in turmoil.
1. Don’t freak out.
Your relationship isn’t over!
A guy pulling back is sometimes a normal part of being a guy.
At times, we aren’t handling things well. Life is throwing curve balls we feel like we aren’t catching. Struggles with work, health, family, or even our mental status can lead to us feeling like we’re failing you as a man.
Men often deal with these situations by retreating back to their inner resources to reaffirm they can handle things without relying on you or others. It’s a time to rethink, consolidate, and come back for you stronger than ever.
You freaking out about the relationship is the opposite of what a guy needs when this is occurring. Him knowing you’re there to support him is important. But having you push him when he wants to deal with it himself, or worse, having you freaking out about the one thing he felt solid with (his relationship) is absolutely the last thing he needs on his already overwhelming plate.
Yes, he could also be losing interest or rethinking the relationship. But you freaking out isn’t going to help in that scenario, either.