Sometimes, in a moment of feeling abandoned, unseen, or treated unfairly by our partners, we protect ourselves with a silent vow: “Never again.”
“Never again will I let myself be hurt like this.”
“Never again will I allow myself to be so vulnerable.”
“Never again will I depend on you.”
Such vows may be fully conscious or barely at the edge of awareness.
We may not use the exact words “Never again” but whatever form the vow takes, we draw a line in the sand. We make a pact with ourselves but we don’t tell our partners. We may not realize the power of our decision until months or years later.
To be clear, I am not talking about relationships in which you are the recipient of destructive behavior such as emotional, physical, or sexual abuse. In relatRead More The One Vow That Can DESTROY Your Relationship