I use the phrase “psychological demons disguised as love” when I talk about people who have disturbed romantic beliefs.
You may be surprised by the number of people who’ve felt trapped in unhealthy relationships at some point in their lives. In my work with clients, as well as in casual conversations, I’ve noticed certain behavioral patterns of toxic, emotionally abusive lovers.
I tell them that trouble brews when emotion trumps reason in relationships — when you listen to what your heart feels and not what your mind screams. This happens when something goes wrong in your relationship because the surge of love hormones drowns reason.
Consider these example:
When it comes to love, most people have the true definition of love so wrong.
Think about the lyrics to some of songs you’ve heard about love.
They talk about how hard they want to fall, or how loving can hurt. There are even lyrics about not being able to live alone with just themselves because their world revolves around their lover.
Movies and television shows portray the fairy tale ending of “happily ever after”. But that’s not what love is, either.
Here’s what love is and is not:
1. Love is not lust-filled or extreme.
Chemistry is important, but it shouldn’t feel like you lose yourself when you’re together.
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Your first date was amazing… until you find out they just got out of a long-term relationship. You’re their first date after their breakup.
You’re probably seeing a red flag. You don’t want to be the rebound relationship that distracts them while they take time getting over their lost love, and you certainly don’t want to have your heart broken by someone who isn’t ready to commit to another serious relationship so soon after a breakup.
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Relationships can take time, and the one thing you should never underestimate is the importance establishing a steady pace.
If you’re the type of person who meets someone one day and then devotes your entire world to them the next, then you are bound to end up in the friend zone on repeat.
Going from A to Z overnight is like driving through the country at a hundred miles per hour and expecting to see the flowers blooming on the side of the road.
You are bound to miss the small details that will support the foundation of your relationship.
Relationships are all about breathing in the fresh air at a consistent rate. Running at lightning speed to the altar will only get you on hung the fence.
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I hear a lot of dating stories, specifically from men, where they say they fell in love with someone and months or even years later, they found out they were dating a complete crazy person.
They got bamboozled.
Their partner pretended to be a certain way to catch them and then revealed their true self; a heartless, narcissistic b*tch/a**hole and now they’re stuck there asking themselves, “Who the hell are you and what did I get myself into?”
You want to be sympathetic towards these folks because they were blinded by love, but I don’t feel bad for them.
I just think they weren’t paying attention.
Whether you’re together a few months or years, things happen in people’s lives that will show you their character.
They will either shine or reveal themselves to be who they really are.
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