So how do we navigate the waters of prior perspectives, beliefs, teachings, and past experiences without losing our own values, beliefs, and self-worth? How do we deal with in-laws without losing ourselves in the process?
1. Limit your expectations.
Expectations put pressure on reality to be perfect, and when reality doesn’t deliver we feel like failures. Therefore, it is important to let go of how things, events, or relationships should look like and do what is good for you.
Traditions have their place but when they don’t work for you and your circumstances, modify and incorporate them to the best of your ability.
2. Be curious and open-minded.
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“Where am I going wrong?” is a question I get all the time from women struggling with dating in the digital age.
Ghosting, swiping and shifting ways to DTR (define the relationship) are making a lot of women feel stressed out and frustrated. Getting it wrong in the dating world, however, does not mean you are failing at something, but you are probably limiting yourself to many possibilities that could open doors to happy, healthy relationships.
There are certain actions and behaviors women are in the habit of doing — usually without even knowing it — that are blocking them from having great dates, meeting new people and maybe even finding love.
The upside of this is that you don’t have to rely on anyone else. You can simply change a few of your bad habits.
Here are SIX of the dating behavio
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The next six things are things you can do to get over a heartbreak, to get ready and prepare for a new start, no matter how scary that may sound at the moment:
1. Give yourself the time to grieve the relationship.
You lost someone who was important to you. Acknowledge that and don’t pretend it never happened. If you need to wallow for a bit then do that, just watch that you don’t drown in it.
Grieving is a natural method of saying goodbye to something we lost. Your relationship was important to you, otherwise you wouldn’t end up with heartbreak but with relief, so take y
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here are six kinds of compliments that men would love to hear more often. Some of these I heard as requests from the men who asked me to write this article, others are things that my male clients have often mentioned they felt insecure about in their relationships, and a smaller portion have come from my personal dating history.
1. Compliments that show that you believe in him
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Vanity Fair calls it the dating apocalypse, and The New York Times refers it as the end of courtship, as millennials are becoming more interested in having lots of sex instead of making an effort to get to know someone.
You don’t have to go out on dates anymore or hang out at the bar — just make contact, and sex is a few texts away. These days, it’s about your text game (the ability to actually convince someone to do something over text).
1. Test the waters.
Make sure the woman is OK with it before you start sexting. The best way to do this is to subtly get her aroused with sexual but casual texts. Say things like, “Hey you, I was just about to take a long hot shower. What are you up
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I’m not here to profess some grand happiness formula for marriage, seeing as I’ve only experienced this one life, with this one man, over a short eight years. Nor will I pretend to know all of the intricate, deeply seeded reasons for your own unhappiness. Happiness is wildly inconsistent and subjective.
But I do know a thing or two about chronic unhappiness. The way it simmers under the surface of our lives, building up pressure, and how each heavy sigh is like an emotional relief valve. I know how easy it is to dip into the shadowy parts of a marriage and then mistake it for all of the darkness in my life, even the parts that belong to me.
In talking with my married girlfriends and analyzing the relationships around me (including the one in my house), there does seem to be some consistent habits among t
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Here are just 6 issues we tend to blame on men, that hurt actually hurt guys just as much as they hurt us.
1. Body image issues.
Body image isn’t an issue that affects women only. Men hide under their clothes, diet obsessively, take steroids and suffer silently when it comes to body image, just as women do. It’s commonplace to he a woman tell her girlfriends or her boyfriend, “I feel fat,” but rarely do men have such a voice or place to express this when they feel it.
We encourage women to embrace curvy bodies and blame men and the media for perpetuating the size 0 image without considering that men see “ideal male” images in the media and receive criticism from women as well.
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Honesty is amongst the better policies, right up there with the No Child Left Behind Act (in theory) and just behind “Let people off the train before you start getting on it,” in terms of general value.
But we’re sensitive to too much honesty. A bowlful of sugar is the only thing that makes the medicine go down. But a reluctance to criticize our friends is a disservice. However, too much callin’ ’em like we see ’em is a bummer, too. That’s why you need your one blunt best friend to give you a lift on the straight talk express
Here are 6 reasons to love that blunt best friend even more than you already do.
1. They don’t hold back from delivering the truth.
My brother-in-law is famous (in some circles) for saying, “Facts are friendly.” But he’s wrong; facts are neutra
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Meeting new people, switch workplaces, move out to a different location, and dealing with an illness are just a couple of examples of the changes that requires integration and blending in.
In all my years of coaching, I haven’t met a client who told me that they never experienced change in their life.
Often, it is more about them wanting to make a change (for example, creating more business or finding a partner) or there are so many changes happening all at once and they want some help with dealing with them.
The most complex change is going from being single, where you are free to do what you want, to becoming part of a couple, where you have to negotiate commitment and accountability with and towards each other.
If that’s not complicated enough, there’s the extended family on BOTH sides who wants t
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I use the phrase “psychological demons disguised as love” when I talk about people who have disturbed romantic beliefs.
You may be surprised by the number of people who’ve felt trapped in unhealthy relationships at some point in their lives. In my work with clients, as well as in casual conversations, I’ve noticed certain behavioral patterns of toxic, emotionally abusive lovers.
I tell them that trouble brews when emotion trumps reason in relationships — when you listen to what your heart feels and not what your mind screams. This happens when something goes wrong in your relationship because the surge of love hormones drowns reason.
Consider these example:
Gettin’ down with someone new for the first time is exciting and nerve wracking. There are so many decisions to make! Lights on or lights off? Do you get on top, or do you just park yourself on the bottom and hope for the best? Will it be evident that it’s been a minute?
The thing about it is that once you do it, it really is like riding a bike. You never really forget, you just have to get back on the horse.
Hooking up with a new person for the first time can be totally awesome. Sure, there are awkward moments as you figure out each other’s moves and tastes, but the sexual chemistry carries you through. But there are those other times when your new paramour’s behavior in the bedroom is inexcusable. We all have our limi
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It is not always easy to tell when your man is cheating on you. Sure, you may have some suspicions or maybe feel that something is off, but cheaters are usually great at hiding their affairs or manipulating the situation to make it look like you’re just imagining things.
Of course, there are times when a weird feeling may have no basis, but if you can’t shake off the thought that something is going on with your husband, then these 6 subtle signs of cheating below may help you out.
1. You’re no longer invited to business events.
When he’s going out more for business events or going to out of town work-related travels that you’re no longer invited to, something else may be going on. He may not be cheating on you yet, but by distancing himself from you, he may be creating the
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