If You Do These 5 Things As A Man, You’re An Emotional Psycopath

There’s this thing with dating these type of guys, that find every possible way to ruin your life. They blame you for every possible disaster in their life.
They are the absolute worst and when they eventually leave you, they leave with your pride, self-esteem, hopes, dreams and happiness.
These men are total pyschos and you should stay away from them.
“how do I recognise them?” You may ask, just read the below clues, and you just might have one at hand:

1. They make you feel like everything is your fault
Emotional psychopaths aren’t always outright mean; most of the time they’re very charming and compassionate. One minute you’re fighting, the next he’s sweetly telling you, “Baby, look. I don’t want to fight with you. I know you couldn’t help ruining our evening and that it’s hard for you to stop being so emotional all the time.” See what he did there? Instead of focusing on the actual problem at hand, he made you feel as though the fight was somehow your fault. That’s because emotional psychopaths have no accountability and nothing is ever their fault.

2. They gaslight you.
Gaslighting is when an abuser changes, twists, and makes up information with the intention of causing someone to doubt their own memory, perception and sanity. It’s also a popular tactic of of emotional psychopaths. I’ll never forget when my aunty found out her husband was cheating on her because he accidentally left his email inbox open. When she confronted him, instead of apologizing he exploded and began yelling at her. “You misread them, I can’t believe you don’t trust me, this is just like you to not trust me, I can’t believe I put up with this, you’re ruining our marriage,” and so on and so forth. After several days of unrelenting insistence he wasn’t cheating,she actually found herself questioning whether she’d made it all up in her head. When an emotional psychopath knows they have no excuse, they make one up (all the while making you feel like you’re the delusional one.)

3. Everything’s your fault.
This point looks similar to #1 but trust me when I say it’s different. In this case, we’re talking about an emotional psychopath’s tendency to blame others for all of their life problems. He’s doing poorly at work? Well, that’s your fault because you stress him out at home. In trouble with the law? Well, you made him so angry he got all heated up and caused a problem. Unhappy in your marriage? It’s obviously because you’re such a horrible partner. In short: Everything bad that ever happens is because of you, you, you, and never them. They’re perfect; you’re defective, end of story.

4. They tear you down.
Emotional psychopaths know they don’t have much going for them so they exert control over their victims in an effort to control the way they think. (Because if you could think for yourself, you might realize how much better you deserve.) If they can pound into your head just how ugly/useless/pathetic/stupid you are, you’ll start to believe it yourself and cling more tightly to him because you (incorrectly) think it’s the best you can do. And once you believe your self-worth is non-existent, emotional psychopaths can make you believe anything they want. And what they allow you to believe only serves one person: Them.

5. They isolate you.
He’ll discourage and prevent you from seeing your friends because poof!They might actually have two wits about him and convince you to leave him. If he’s putting in good effort to “fix” you, he can’t tolerate your friends ruining his hard work, not with their “bad” advice and misguided ways. He’ll also convince you they don’t really “understand” how much he loves you and will try to convince you that you don’t need friends because you have him.

2 Replies to “If You Do These 5 Things As A Man, You’re An Emotional Psycopath”

  1. Winnie, no you cant. Yes, most times it looks like you will never be able to live without that person, that your world will tumble and crash without that person, so because of that feeling, you become afraid to leave. Any thing they do to you, you stay. They know that you won’t leave, so they treat you anyhow.
    Don’t allow that. You should never love anyone who mistreats you. The whole point of loving someone is because they do things that make you feel special, but from all i’ve listed in the write-up, nothing about those qualities will ever make you feel special, except you’re a sadist though, which I am sure you’re not.
    So girl, do not over-look it, get going, pack your bags, give space for someone who values you to come along, and make you know how special you are.

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