Confession: I don’t like that my Girlfriend believes in God

I’ve been an atheist for almost 5 years (never believed before that though), I’m past the point of new-atheism when “atheism=intelligence” and “all fundies are useless”. So when I try to talk to my gf about our beliefs, and lately what we’d do regarding them with our theoretical kids, I keep a level head and I try to respect her beliefs while also not backing on mine.
But she doesn’t like it. She always gets frustrated while we’re talking until eventually she just ends the conversation. She thinks that people who don’t believe in God are either “gay or hurt”. She thinks that God is the only thing keeping people from killing others all the time, herself included. She thinks atheists are at the same level or worse than Satanists. She’s usually a great girl, she’s scientifically literate and very smart, but she believes in this and horoscopes wholeheartedly.
We’ve started idly talking about what we’d do with our kids if we had them. Among the things we’ve argued about (she wants them to be able to stay with her abusive family, doesn’t want them calling my mom Grammie, is that she wants our kids christened and brought up religiously, with a light-to-strong church influence. I don’t want this at all. I don’t want my children to grow up indoctrinated, being told stories by religions that have oppressed and divided people for centuries. I want them to grow up learning that you don’t have to be religious to be moral, that you should be good for goodness’ sake. If religion ever came up with them I would want it to be when they were older (maybe teenagers), when we could teach them all the facts and show them the different beliefs people can have and then let them choose a religion for themselves, if they’d want one at all.
My parents raised me with next-to-no religious influence, and I’m glad they did. The bible stories my grandmother used to read me, like Noahs Ark, always just seemed like stories. I don’t my children to grow up believing that things like that actually happened, especially when almost everything points to the contrary.
I love this girl. I love her with all my heart and I would be privileged to spend the rest of my life with her. But for this reason (and a couple others) I don’t think I’d want want to have children with her.‎

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