8 Arousing Statements That Can Turn Your Partner On In Bed

The list of best things is sadly more difficult to compile. Follow these guidelines and you’ll become the elusive man she’s longing for: the man with a well-trained tongue.

It’s okay to go slow: Say it and mean it. Especially when you’re first rubbing skin with a new woman and it’s not yet clear whether you’ll actually have s*x tonight. Or when you’re first getting back together with an ex. Or when you’re about to have s*x with her for the first time since she gave birth. It builds trust and reassures a woman that you care more about her than about the s*x. Also, it often leads to the reverse-psychology phenomenon: She’ll want to jump you by the time you finish the sentence.

That freckle is beautiful: Compliments are always good. Except when they’re generic. Then she thinks you’ve said the same thing to 47 other women. Focus on unique details, the way her lips curl or her eyes crinkle. The more special you make her feel, the more aroused she gets. She wants to hear words that imply she’s attractive, appreciated, loved or at least liked. Compliments after s*x are good, too.

You: Say it often. “You” is the hottest word you can say to a woman in bed. “You make me feel so good” instead of “That feels so good.” Subtle modification, but big difference in sentiment. “You’ is sexy because you’re referring to her as opposed to the act of s*x,” says Daylle Deanna Schwartz, a psychotherapist and author of How to Please a Woman in and out of Bed. “It’s very personal, and women love that.”

You kiss great for a virgin: A woman needs feedback to know she’s turning you on. “Oh, yeah. You feel so good. Even grunting indicates you really liked it when she grabbed your a*s, but didn’t care for the sucking of toes. Need inspiration to get vocal? “Women are much more likely to give longer and more enthusiastic oral s*x when men give them a response,” says Schwartz. When you drift into radio silence, she starts wondering, “Is this doing anything for him? Should I stop? Does my face look fat?” All that thinking keeps her from concentrating.

I’m going to take these off: Compare this with “Should I take these off?” Too many questions makes s*x seem clinical and cerebral, and women hate that. Also, women want the man to convey a sense of certainty. When he does, it creates an intimate space where she can feel safe to open up. Sometimes midthrust queries are necessary, in which case it’s best to whisper urgently in her ear. A better time for questions is before or after s*x, while you’re holding her.

You make me think dirty thoughts: Your last girlfriend liked you to swear like Missy Elliot. Your new girlfriend might, too. You just don’t know yet: You’ve had only sweet, respectful, beginning-of-relationship s*x. It’s time for a dirty-talk litmus test. Make a statement like the one above and see if she turns red. “Some women hate the ‘c-word’ but love the ‘p-word,’ ” says David Copeland, coauthor of How to Talk to Women. “Some feel the opposite. Some dislike both. It’s best to test a bit, rather than go for your deepest, kinkiest dirty talk right away.” Be attuned to her response before you take it up a notch on the dirty scale.

I want to make you feel good: You want her to have an climax, and you want her to know it. But talking about it is one way to ensure it won’t happen, it sometimes comes across as your being more concerned about your abilities than about how she feels. “Focus not on climax, but on giving her s*xual pleasure,” says Laura Berman, Ph.D., a clinical professor at Northwestern University and director of the Berman Center in Chicago. “It’s more er*tic.”

Next time, I’m going to . . . : Afterplay is just as important for building her arousal as foreplay, and it takes only a fraction of the time. “Create s*xual anticipation by telling her what you’re going to do to her next time,” suggests Cadell. “It conveys that you care about her and want to satisfy her.” And it lets her know she’s still desirable to you, even after you’ve had your way with her.

You amaze me Or You’re amazing: It says, “That was really great s*x,” without actually saying, “That was really great s*x.” Another declaration that women love to hear: “You’re the best lover I’ve ever had.” If it’s true, tell her. There’s no greater confidence booster; and once she holds the title, she’ll make darn sure she keeps it.

Source: Men’sHealth

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